Couples Therapy

Help for Your Relationship

 
 

Do you find yourself having the same kinds of fights with your partner over and over again? Do you feel lonely and disconnected despite being in an intimate relationship? Are you frustrated because your attempts to make your partner change have failed? Every couple has arguments, but recurring battles can leave couples feeling at a hopeless impasse.  As a specialist in couples therapy and research, my goal is to help you learn to reconcile longstanding differences, to increase your connection and understanding and to help you build communication strategies that work.

To help couples meet these goals, I use an evidence-based approach called Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT) which is a form of couples therapy or marriage counseling that has been shown to be effective in improving relationship satisfaction and communication and decreasing the likelihood of divorce. Using IBCT, I help couples build an objective understanding of what is happening in their conflicts and learn how to come together more easily to solve them.  In addition, I help partners improve their empathic understanding of each other. Through this flexible and tailored approach, couples often report an increase in positive communication skills, fewer and less intense arguments, and a greater sense of friendship, intimacy and understanding.

My goals as a therapist is to help you evolve the way you communicate to deal with conflict and disconnection more gracefully.  In session, we will discuss incidents that reflect the problem as well as positive interactions and movements toward change.  We won’t work on changing who you are as people.  The goal of our discussions is not to place blame, but to understand these incidents (and the emotions behind them) and to handle them more effectively. Often, our focus will turn toward working together in the moment so I can help guide you toward interactions that create greater understanding and resolution. In this way, you will learn and practice effective strategies in session that you can then take home.

Some common concerns people bring to couples therapy or marriage counseling:

  • relationship dissatisfaction

  • difficulties with closeness, vulnerability or openness

  • "growing apart"

  • communication problems

  • high-conflict interactions

  • infidelity

  • difficulties with sexual intimacy/differences in desire for sexual intimacy

  • coping with mental health problems, anger or trauma

  • transitioning to parenthood, parenting problems, blended families

  • conception challenges, pregnancy complications, and perinatal loss

  • caregiving, children with special needs, disability or illness

  • chronic illness, grief and loss

For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation.
— Rainer Maria Rilke

Does Your Marriage Need a Tune Up? 
I also offer a “Marriage Checkup” which enables couples to create lasting satisfaction by dealing with problems before they become deal breakers and build upon existing strengths.  If you value the health of your relationship, the Marriage Checkup can help you take action to keep your marriage strong and improve your satisfaction. 

Step 1: Assessment involves filling out a few questionnaires about your marital health before our initial meeting (30-minutes at home).  

Step 2: Initial In-Person Meeting involves diving deeper into understanding your relationship, answering questions about your strengths, weaknesses and any problematic communication patterns (90-minutes). 

Step 3: In-Person Feedback involves receiving valuable feedback and a menu of choices to help you develop strategies to foster and deepen intimacy, manage conflict more gracefully and confront any corrosive patterns in your relationship (50-minutes). 

Step 4: In-Person Follow-up involves looking at steps you've made, changes that have worked and areas for continued growth. 

Total Time Commitment:
30-minutes filling out questionnaires (at home)
90-minute Initial meeting
50-minute Feedback meeting 
50-minute Follow-up meeting (approximately 1 month later)

Total Financial Commitment: Please contact me for pricing 

 

For a helpful summary of how to choose a (good) couples therapist, click here 

For a helpful summary of the best scientific treatments available for couples in distress, click here

If it sounds like my work might be good fit for you, contact me for a free phone consultation and to set up an initial meeting.